Frogging It: A poetic Analysis of Relationship Dissolution

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  • Sandra L. Faulkner Bowling Green State University

https://doi.org/10.4471/qre.2012.10

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Often, themes in work and life intertwine; the author recognized that a cadre of poems she had written during the past several years were about relationship dissolution. The poems concerned romantic and friendship dissolution and the aspects of identity creation and loss this entails. The author presents the poems and makes an explicit connection to interpersonal relationship dissolution literature through the technique of poetic analysis. This analysis serves as an exemplar for how poetry as performative writing offers a valuable addition to interpersonal communication research through the poeticizing of relational dissolution as an everyday relational challenge.

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Author Biography

Sandra L. Faulkner, Bowling Green State University

Sandra L. Faulkner is an Associate Professor of Communication at Bowling Green State University. Herteaching and research interests include qualitative methodology, poetic inquiry, and the relationships between culture,ethnic/sexual identities, and sexual talk in close relationships. She has published research in journals such asQualitative Health Research andJournal of Social and Personal Relationships, and her bookPoetry as Method: Reporting Research through Verse withLeft Coast Press.Her poetry has appeared inQualitative Inquiry,Women & Language, andNorthwoods. Her chapbook, Hello Kitty Goes to College, was published by dancing girl press. She lives in NW Ohio with her partner, their warrior girl, and a rescue mutt.

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2012-10-30

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Faulkner, S. L. (2012). Frogging It: A poetic Analysis of Relationship Dissolution. Qualitative Research in Education, 1(2), 202–227. https://doi.org/10.4471/qre.2012.10

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